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How To Cleanse A Home When Someone Dies

Published on May 30, 2014 by   ·   10 Comments Pin It

Clearing the energy of the room your beloved was staying in is easy and can be done in a way that honors her/his memory and presence in your hearts.  It is never too late to clear a room.

How to cleanse a home when someone you love passes

Feng Shui Room Clearing

If you want to follow feng shui tradition, do nothing to the room until after the memorial or burial ceremony, as that is what officially “closes the life” of the person.  If the person was ill prior to death, the belief is that he or she leaves a residue of yin or “negative” energy, considered stagnant, that is best cleared from the room; but even if the death was accidental or sudden, a cleansing is always in order afterward.

Bedroom Cleansing

On the day of the cleansing, open all the windows in the house, symbolically allowing fresh energy to replace the old.  Once this is done, you can begin cleansing the rest of the room.

Keep in mind that no “rule” says you have to clear out everything, but clearing the home of your loved one’s items will help you and others in the family more easily process the sadness and grief.  Never confuse clearing out your loved one’s things with clearing your loved one from your memory. Remind yourself during the clearing process that your loved one’s items are simply “things” and can never take his or her place or the memories you hold dear. In reality, your loved one’s spirit will live on forever in your heart and memory.

The general method

Set some ground rules before starting.  It might be helpful to work by yourself if you’re feeling solitary and want to focus on what you’re doing.  In some circumstances, you may want to include others to help with certain decisions or because you may be feeling emotionally and physically drained. Whether you handle these chores on your own or with help is ultimately your decision.

Follow the steps below:

In general, when you cannot make a decision about an item, put it aside and decide at another time.

  • Remove all personal clothing.  Most people donate the clothing if it is in good repair, but that decision is personal.  Do what is most comfortable and appropriate for you.
  • Remove or put away personal mementos and keepsakes.  Keep those things you feel will honor the person, and put away or donate the rest.
  • Strip the off bedding completely.  Many people dispose of the bedding, but do what feels most comfortable.
  • Cleanse the room. Use any appropriate cleanser to wipe down the walls and floors, and the inside and outside of the furniture.
  • Clean the drapes or blinds.  Dry-clean the drapes, if you have any, or thoroughly clean the blinds or louvers.
  • Paint the room.  (Optional)  Sometimes the color of the room is so strongly associated with the unhappiness, or challenge of the final days, that painting the room a different color will dramatically change the energy.

What about the bed?

The bed holds the energy of the person who sleeps in it, which is why it is inadvisable to buy a used bed, especially one from an unknown person.  Sleeping in a bed where a death has occurred will often evoke a subtle and “weird” or uncomfortable feeling.  However, if replacing the bed and mattress is economically impractical, perform a simple cleansing that will serve to balance the energy of both the bed and the room, allowing for a renewal.

Use Salt, Rice, Incense or Light

salt cleanses a home's energies

Salt – Salt helps draw out “old” energy.  A small mound of salt can be placed in each of the four corners of the room and on the mattress.  Leave the salt until you complete the bedroom cleansing, disposing of it outside the home afterward.

Rice – Rice is thought to draw any old energy from the home’s interior out toward the exterior.  A traditional feng shui blessing uses rice. Starting outside your front door, sprinkle rice on the outer perimeter of the home.

Incense or Essential Oils – Choose a scent, such as lavender, sage, eucalyptus, or mint that you and your family find comforting and burn or disperse it in the room.  Each of these essences lends its special properties to the environment.  Eucalyptus is especially excellent relief for healing and for those going through grief-related challenges.

Light – Light is a great cleanser. Open the drapes and let the sunshine inside. Place prisms or faceted orbs in the window, allowing rainbows of light to enter the room and brighten the energy.

A shift of energy

After you clear the deceased’s energy from the room, it will feel quite different.  By clearing and cleansing a room, you enable everyone in the home to more easily move forward in life, carrying the good memories of your loved one in the most positive way.

Why yes, that is a stairway to heaven.

Why yes, that is a stairway to heaven.

Alice Inoue is a life guide at Alice Inoue Life Guidance, LLC, a company committed to assisting people in living empowered lives. Alice shares her wisdom as a professional speaker and personal consultant and offers a series of instructional DVD’s on feng shui, as well as her award-winning books on feng shui, happiness and spiritual life wisdom. 


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Readers Comments (10)

  1. Alex says:

    Hi, My father recently died in my dining room so I will be following these steps. However i have discovered that someone committed suicide in my house. Is it the same procedure? We have had nothing but bad luck and misery since we moved in and i think this might be the cause. Thanks.

    • Danielle says:

      Great blog – Simple and to the point and effective strategies!

      Alex, yes the cleansing process would be the same. If you are still having problems after your cleansing, please contact me through my website; I may be able to help you.


    • My friend husband Committed suicide in their bedroom.
      The bed has been replaced the carpet walls painted and all of his personal items. His ashes, she has placed outside the home because she feels negative energy.
      How can we assist with cleansing this room and her home.
      Salt, rice, and a pure insence ?

  2. Thanks for a marvelous posting! I genuinely enjoyed reading it, you
    could be a great author. I will be sure to bookmark your blog and may
    come back later on. I want to encourage you to definitely continue your great work, have a nice morning!

  3. Keyan says:

    Hown long the dead person take to leave the room they die in

    • Danielle says:

      Keyan, that depends on the situation; it can be immediately or it can be hundreds of years later. Some of the contributing factors are,if there was any type of tragedy or if the person passed peacefully.
      This article is about clearing energy from a room and not about clearing an actual spirit. If you have more questions or need assistance with a spirit, please contact me at

  4. Cindy Powell says:

    You’re information is interesting thank you. My sister died unexpectedly in our house/parents kitchen & not instantly. We’re devastated & so heartbroken. I live with my parents & her. There’s no right or wrong way to deal with this intense pain. My mom isn’t home to mourn with us, as she was unexpectedly hospitalized since Sept 25. Then it triggered the pain of losing my baby brother only 5 months old years ago. This definitely is going to take time to deal with & for now we’re not touching her room/things as my mom needs to be involved in the decision making. Thanks for the advice. ??

  5. Cindy Powell says:

    *She died only 2 weeks ago.

  6. Niki says:

    We are buying a house that one of my aunts best friends died in about 3 weeks ago of a massive heart attack. They found him on the floor in the living room beside his couch. We are emptying the entire house and keeping two of his dressers and the pool table. But I will be honest, I’m silently freaking out and trying not to let my kids find out. We are going to paint the living room and his bedroom and tear up the carpet in the living room and replace with hardwood floors. In regards to cleansing for a fresh and positive energy (and to stop freaking out ??‍♀️??) what do you recommend I do??
    I appreciate any suggestions you can give me!!

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