Some people may choose a marathon of “Girls” episodes over sex any night. Others dump the TV and realize their intimacy and book reading shoots through the roof. Alice Inoue is a life guide that uses the modalities of feng shui to change peoples lives. Here’s her take on ye olde TV in the bedroom question;
I see televisions in the bedrooms of about eighty percent of the homes I visit. Odds are you have one in your bedroom as well. During a feng shui consultation, many of my clients sheepishly say, “I know that I’m not supposed to have a television in the bedroom…” Many people are afraid I will tell them to give it up – and I never do. This “rule” that you may have heard about is based on the theory of proper placement and proper usage. Just as in nature you would never see a large oak tree growing in the middle of a bamboo forest, or find a peacock running with the zebras in Africa, you wouldn’t consider putting your dining table in the bathroom or your bed in the kitchen. In the same way, televisions in the bedroom are not considered a “match.”
In feng shui, the concept is that the more you place things in their “proper place”, and use each room in the way it is intended, the more balanced and peaceful the energy can be.The function of the bedroom The primary function of a bedroom is rest, rejuvenation, and intimacy with yourself or your partner. The television is conventionally thought to be contrary to these functions, along with office or exercise equipment in your bedroom. That is because it puts conflicting functions (movement and rest) in the same room.
Other television-in-the-bedroom theories: Some schools of thought believe that you can be startled by your own reflection in the television screen in the middle of the night when you awaken. Others say the signal that picks up the stations is still energetically active even if the television is off, which can disrupt sleep.
Insomnia specialists, who do not consider feng shui advice, recommend taking the television out of the bedroom to indicate to the subconscious that the bedroom is a place for rest.
While all these theories do have merit, I feel that asking a client to remove a television for feng shui purposes, if they love it, or asking them to cover it at night if they do not have insomnia, is impractical.
When you and your mate have differing opinions:
The big challenge comes when one person loves the television in the bedroom and the other wants it removed. Often I am put in the middle of disagreements and am expected to side with one or the other.
How do I handle this? I always allow the couple to come to their own decision and navigate towards the compromise that works best. If the television is staying in the room, and it is an issue between the couple, here are questions I ask them:
It is never easy when we are at odds with our partners, especially when we firmly believe our way is right. Sometimes the one who is bothered by the television will just “put up with it,” which leads to a build-up of resentment over time. It’s important to realize that the feelings of both parties are valid and neither is right nor wrong.
If the television is an issue for you and your partner, take the time to discuss how you can find a happy medium. If not, may you continue to sleep in peace!
Alice Inoue’s offerings include award-winning, mind-body-spirit themed books, as well as a series of feng shui instructional DVD’s. For more information visit www.aliceinspired.com.